You Can't Hurry Love

"Can't hurry love, no, you just have to wait.
Love don't come easy, you just have to give and take."
Dixie Chicks

I walked out of my cubicle just now, and met my tempstaff along the way. The first thing she exclaimed was, "It's V-day tomorrow, and I don't have any date. I'm meeting someone on Thursday, but it just ain't the same!" She's only 18 years old. I was laughing at her candid-ness. Those are the very words that will never come out of my mouth!

It's V-day. To some, it's Singles Awareness Day. It causes me to chuckle when I bump into people who tear their hair over this date. The day when supposedly cupid actually takes a blind stab at shooting his arrows, and all hell breaks loose.

To the enterprising, this day is perfect for profit-making, where dating couples wouldn't mind spending ridiculous amounts of money for flowers that would die within a day or two. To the the dating couples, it's a day where surprises are required, and late nights are spent to plan for the special date. To the skeptics, it's just a day that causes people around to lose their minds, and their sense of taste in order to get THAT date, and to make it perfect. To the bochaps, it's just another day on the calendar.

To me, now what can I say? It's a day for me to realise that my biological clock is catching up with me fast. It's a day where reflections are made on this part of life. I've always been a cynic of romance. Of late though, I realized I changed. Being cynical doesn't help in anything. It only helps in missing out the good part of life, it's better if one looks forward to hope for something good to happen. And this applies to all parts of life. This is one of the parts of life that one can't control. You can't make someone fall in love with you. It's a part of life where if it comes, it comes. Yes, perhaps, one can work towards winning that dream guy/gal. Yet, when one tries too hard, it doesn't really last. That is not the true self. That's not allowing someone to love you for who you are, but yet, still hope that you would always continue to develop to someone even better.

I've seen countless of broken marriages. Too many for me to count on my fingers. It doesn't matter if it was a 1 year marriage, 10 year marriage or 20 year marriage, if one loses the cool, if one just snaps for good, then that's the end to the entire "romance".

Romance, in itself, is not the bottom line. Question now, are we chasing romance? Or are we chasing a life-long union that we wish to have and hold? What does V-day represent? A day of romance, or a commemoration of romance that lasts through the union? It all depends on oneself.

In the meantime, on with the roses, champagne and chocolates!